The Purity of Love (Motive Matters)

Not all love is godly, and not all affection is pure. Scripture teaches us that love is not defined merely by what we do, but by why we do it. God weighs motives just as much as actions. It is possible to do the right thing for the wrong reason and still miss the heart of God.

In a culture that measures love by intensity and emotion, the Kingdom measures love by integrity and obedience. This is why the purity of our love matters because love that is not pure eventually becomes destructive to relationships, testimony, and spiritual growth.

Romans 12:9 instructs us clearly:“

Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.”

Godly Love Flows from a Clean Heart

Biblical love does not originate in desire, attraction, or convenience; it originates in the heart. Scripture makes it clear that the condition of the heart determines the quality of our love.

Jesus consistently confronted those who performed righteous actions with impure motives. They appeared loving outwardly, yet inwardly were driven by pride, control, or self-interest. God is not impressed by appearances; He is concerned with alignment. Pure love is love that has first been processed through surrender.

Biblical Love Does Not Deny Desire; It Disciplines It

In a culture driven by impulse and instant gratification, God calls His people to submit their passions to His purposes.

Hormones say, “Do what feels good.”

Holiness says, “Do what honors God.”

Love that is governed by desire alone will eventually cross boundaries, blur convictions, and compromise character. But love shaped by holiness protects both people and purpose.

Pure Love Honors Without Expectation

Pure love honors others without expecting something in return. It does not keep score, nor does it give in order to manipulate outcomes. Hidden agendas turn love into leverage.

Honor-driven love says, “I value you because God values you.”

Agenda-driven love says, “I value you for what you can provide.”

Jesus loved people whether they followed Him or walked away. That is the standard of pure love. When love is pure, people feel safe, not used.

Conclusion

Pure love doesn’t manipulate; it ministers. It does not use people; it serves them.

When love flows from a clean heart, it becomes trustworthy, powerful, and life-giving. God is not calling us to perfect love; He is calling us to pure love. And when our love is pure, it reflects the heart of Christ to a watching world